Break up, saying goodbye to the person you were once close with and deeply in love with.
We have all been there and we all know how that feels.
We have all had our hearts broken. When it happens to you personally, it’s devastating and while people can relate, they aren’t in that moment. The pain is there and it’s real for you. Sometimes it feels like you’re completely helpless and you’ll never get past the suffering.
The important things to remember are that there are people there for you and that there is always a light at the end of the tunnel and ways to help you get there. You have to understand that getting over a break up seems unachieveable but it’s just about the matter of time. Here are a few ways to assist you on your road to peace and happiness again.
Steps You Can Follow To Heal Your Break Up.
Here are a few ways to assist you on your road to peace and happiness again.
1. Cut all the contact.
This honestly is rule #1 in a break up. Keep your distance and don’t text, email, meet in person or call. You should probably take them off your Facebook or any other social networks while you’re at it. This doesn’t have to be permanent but while you’re vulnerable to any mean or, in contrast – loving words, it’s best not to have their voice in your head. The risk of getting back into a relationship when it wasn’t working is high. You may also end up in a war of words causing further hurt and anxiety. Cutting the ties for good when it’s over puts you on a faster path to healing.
- Set up an “Emergency Contact List” that contains all your BFFs’ phone number, when you are tempted to call your Ex and beg for a return relationship, call and talk to your friends instead.
- Pick an activity that you can do to replace the desire of texting/calling/stalking your ex, something handy you can do right away like watch your favorite Netflix show or walk around your favoruite local stores.
2. Let Your Emotions Out.
Cry, sob your eyes out, scream and yell. As long as it doesn’t hurt yourself or anybody else, find ways to release and let go of the pain you may be feeling. When people kindly and humorously tell you all break ups are hard, it’s because they are. Don’t take this part of the healing process away from yourself or it will grow and fester within you. You will naturally feel some negative emotions no matter how easy or hard your break up was. Honor your feelings and know that they will get less intense the more that you let them out. It helps you move past them!
- Listen to sad songs. Research shows that listening to sad songs actually can make us happier. Listening to sad songs can regulate negative emotion and mood as well as consolation. Here we have a playlist consist of sad song for you to listen to if you need a good cry. Find a quiet place, let your emotions run, and give yourself some relief
3. Accept the fact that it’s over, at least for now.
Coping with the end of a relationship is a little bit like a 12 step program. You will reach acceptance far sooner by staying away from that person. This strategy relies on time more than anything else but there are ways to move it along. Try to look at the situation objectively, even if you didn’t agree to the breakup. Don’t over-analyze what could have been different. There are infinite should-haves and could-haves, and thinking about them will cause you to spiral. In the moments you were in the relationship, that’s when your actions mattered. They don’t anymore. Your mission now is to get to the place where you aren’t battling with yourself about the way things are. Do this with compassion and don’t beat yourself up. It may take some time for the heart to catch up with reality but in the meantime, accept that the relationship has ended.
4. Allow your loved ones cheer you up
It’s easy to fall into a state of self-isolation when we feel sad, heartbroken or depressed. When trying to get over a breakup, allow your loved ones be a part of the process. Say yes to invitations to go out or reach out and invite them over. Support and affection from friends and family will help you bounce back faster. Make plans with people who give you positive energy, go out and have fun. You need all the laughter and joyful moments you can get.
5. Put yourself back out there, slowly
I’m not saying go to the club and take a sexy person back home. Hasty rebounds can be fun, but they often end in tears. What could be a healthier way to dip your toes back into the often-murky waters of dating is meeting friends of friends. Ask your friends or colleagues to set you up with people who you may have mutual interests with. Strike up conversations with people who catch your interest on social media and don’t be in a haste to take it offline. Remember, quoting relationship posts with “God When?” without making efforts to get back out there is not an effective strategy.
Ultimately, there is no rush so only resume dating when you feel you’re sufficiently healed from the heartbreak, and ready to try again.