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How To Deal With Bad Friends

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Avoid Playing Into Their Reality. Some people have a tendency to see themselves as the victim in every situation. Funny how the ones who play the victim are the ones who are actually doing the wrong. People who create their own drama deserve their own karma. If your friend plays the victim, you should play the disinterested bystander. They are not the victim, they want all of the drama, sympathy and attention they can get by playing victim. Dear drama queen, we get it that you want attention. You can shut up and stop overreacting now. Or better still, sign up for a tiktok account.

Don’t Get Drawn In. Dealing with toxic people can be exhausting. The person may constantly complain about their relationship with others. What are you to do? Complaining is like mouth farting. And like any other farting, I don’t mind hearing my own. But I don’t want to hear anyone else’s. Don’t complain about someone not treating you right. If you know you deserve better, why are you with them? I think some people enjoy complaining as much as they enjoy doing nothing about it. The next time a bad friend complains about your other friends, thunder punch him/her in the freakin’ neck. And get yourself a nice sweet present for tolerating so long. You know why? People get mad and defensive about certain topics when they know they’re guilty.

Pay Attention To How They Make You Feel. Do your friends apologize or seem to notice what they say or do affects you? ‘Sorry for the mean, awful, accurate things I said to you’ isn’t an apology. So when someone utters an apology like this, make sure to walk away from them. Don’t forget to elbow them before you leave. Fake friends don’t surprise me anymore, loyal ones do. Perfect irony of life. Trust on their actions, not their words. And also, don’t trust everything you see. Even salt looks like sugar. Pay attention to those that don’t clap when you win. Those are the real enemies of your happiness. It’s not your duty to expose your bad friends. In due time, their actions would expose them.

Talk To Them About Their Behaviour. Someone who gossips, manipulates and creates dramatic situations sometimes needs a good talk to act better. In giving advice, seek to help, not to please your friend or conscience. A good friend will tell you the truth. Bad, good or ugly. Some may tell you the truth to hurt you, some to help you. Accept the truth and work harder to change. And if your friends can’t accept the truth you tell them about themselves, how would they accept their wrong behavior? And that leads us back to playing the victim. Communication is very essential in every friendship. And if talking to your friend always leads to feuds rather than change. It’s time you pack your bags and flee. He/she isn’t friendship material, maybe more like UFC material.

Put Yourself First. Don’t ever offer support at the risk of your own well being. Healthy relationships involves give and take. You offer support and you receive support. And if you ever find yourself giving all of the support, it’s a code red. Friendship isn’t all about going for shopping and bitching about boys. If I wanted to do those, I would simply visit jumia or Quora more often. Friendship is all about being there to support me when I am going through the toughest times in my life. You know that awesome feeling when you finally have a true supporter? …..Me neither.

Offer Compassion But Dont Try To Fix Them. People can change but they have to be willing to put in the work to do so. Sometimes, people do not actually change. You just didn’t know them enough. Accept that people change and sometimes, they are no longer compatible with our lives. We just have to learn this and move on. As our lives change, so will our circle. Sometimes, you have to accept the fact that certain things will never go back to how they used to be. Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you. Spend a lot of time with them and it will change you.

Say No And Walk Away. Having a hard time saying no to people? You aren’t alone. One thing to know, ‘no’ is a complete sentence. It does not require justification or explanation. You can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no. You’re not required to set yourself on fire to keep others warm. A lack of boundary with friends invites a lack of respect. It is necessary and even vital to set boundaries in life and the people you let into it. Learning to say no without feeling guilty is the best form of self-love and friendship. Saying no can be the most empowering words when dealing with abusive relationships or friendships.

Work With A Therapist. Once you exit a toxic friendship, always seek help from a therapist. They are trained to help people with situations and can offer comfort. And always remember that some people are going to leave and that’s not the end of your story. That’s the

End of their part in your story.


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11 thoughts on “How To Deal With Bad Friends

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  2. Sometimes you try to repair the friendship, but it isn’t repairable. That’s so sad. I just lost a childhood friend to

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