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A woman in a man’s world

Just for clarity, I am not a feminist. That’s was probably your first thought whilst reading the title, another feminist, a self-proclaimed life coach/adviser or should I say, an angry woman who doesn’t know her place. Well, you could think whatever you like, I just don’t like labels for myself. And just to be on the same page, women have it hard too; the fallacy that we just have everything dumped on our laps is the most absurd thing I’ve ever heard. I am not trying to invalidate the experiences of men because I also have some very interesting takes on men suffering from the effects of the patriarchy, but for this topic I will only be discussing about what women face because I am one.

Have you ever felt like the only thing you’re good for is to be sold off? Have you ever felt like your existence doesn’t matter because you were only born to complete someone else’s life? Have you ever felt like you had to hold down your aspirations and desires because you might bring shame to the family? Have you ever felt like the main responsibilities you were taught to have as a person was to cook, clean and bear children? Have you ever feared for you safety at night because you might get raped? I don’t know about you, but I have felt these and way worse.

Women are often told to pray for a good husband, who would be rich but humble, confident but not proud and a little bit harsh but understanding. Someone willing to let you follow your passion, and I just think, isn’t that an injustice to men in the first place, to have all those requirements to be considered a real man and husband and secondly to the woman because she’s an adult, she can decide whatever she want with her life and it also makes her look feeble minded and too vulnerable, not that vulnerability is a bad thing.

In African homes mainly, it’s some sort of achievement when your children get married, especially your daughters. Mothers have a high sense of pride when they know that their daughters have their own families, but sometimes for the females it’s the worst feeling ever, that at the end of the day, that was your only value. I understand that as human beings, we are hard wired to want companionship, but must it be imposed in us? Must we be the ones to be good and meek, a little bit shy and almost every time innocent, free from all the dark stains of life and ready to be served?

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Because we are naturally disadvantaged, from the age of 45 and beyond we may not be able to give birth to children any longer, so for every woman, it is advised that you get married when you’re younger. Getting married at a younger age isn’t only where the problem stops though, problems like birth complications, being able to cook, being a good wife material and all the bullshit that comes from being a wife, probably even enduring domestic abuse.

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In all honestly, I know we have a very long way to go concerning topics relating to gender, I also know about all the debates going on about how men are the providers and women are the housewives I guess, with supporting evidence like the muscle mass, bone structure and testosterone, but must we suffer for nature?

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34 thoughts on “A woman in a man’s world

  1. True true😪😪
    A woman’s world is a completely hectic one…so much responsibilities and we can barely think for ourselves.

    I always love to read your posts. Adds so much style to this website🤩❤

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  2. Am smiling as I read this, because I can vividly remember us having this argument or rather taking about this topic back then in school….
    And I love the fact that you sharing your ideas with the world……💕💕💕
    Certainly not a feminist tho..lol
    ):💙

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  3. Hi, so, your first sentence, ‘Just to clarify, I am not a feminist’, was a real put-off, since feminists aren’t people who want women’s right above men’s- we just want equal rights for everyone.

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    1. I was really hoping to not give off that idea… Feminist do wonderful things, but I felt like I didn’t want to be labeled, not for fear but because those issues frustrated her, must she or he be given a name to give those views? That was sincerely the idea in my heard… But I apologize that it sounded offensive..

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      1. Defensive on an article about womens issues? Wouldn’t that be hypocritical of me… Thanks for your Input though, we learn every day

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  4. Fertility Rates Naturally Decrease in Developed Countries
    With More Advanced Technologies As Technology Replaces

    The Support That An Extending Family And Village Structure
    Provides for Surviving And Thriving

    And Now That Humans Are Using
    So many More Resources
    of Nature Than We

    Are Returning Now
    This Is Nature Balancing
    Nature and Humans, Even Though
    Humans May Think in Words of Abstract

    Constructs and All Their Literal Edifices

    of Cultures That They Are in Control Oh No

    Nature is in Control and We are only One Small

    And Rather Insignificant Part of Nature Except

    The Part The Human Species is Playing at

    Large to Take More than they Give

    From the Resources of

    Nature Now Yet

    True Some Will See The
    Benefits of These Continuing
    Decreases in Fertility Rates in Countries
    With Highest Technology Advancements

    That Do Provide More Support For Individuals
    Across the Lifespan For Folks Who Went Their
    Own Ways Against Group Think And Act Before

    Modern Technologies Advancing Come to Play Now…
    So What This Means is Single Folks Working For Home…
    So What This Means is Less Opportunity For Face to Face
    Contact Required to Fully Access Human Nature And Compatibilities…

    So What This Means is If Ya Love to Do Life Solo For What Ya Love to Do
    This May Be the ‘Green Acres’ of An Avatar World For You As Some Folks

    Are More Cut-Out For A Less Nurturing Life this Way and Some Folks Just
    Get the Reproduction Bug As it becomes Their Window to What’s Good in the

    World As
    Far As
    Family
    Life Grows

    Yet of Course in
    More Undeveloped
    Countries Marriage is
    For Economic Success
    And Families Are Necessary
    Big For Support For All Involved

    So of Course in those Cases Patriarchy
    Takes Control And Women Bear Most of the
    Burden Involved With Making Extending Families Big

    Enough
    to Survive
    And Thrive and
    That’s Fine if one
    is Cut out for a Nurturing
    Life Yet if Not, A Very Uncomfortable Life Indeed…

    My Wife is A Nurturer Who Worked For 13 Years
    Very Hard When She Worked Yet When She Developed
    More Difficulties With Epilepsy She Surely Doesn’t Miss A Career
    Now Out of Nurturing a Marriage Home Without Children At All Yet

    Again Other Women
    Might Be Miserable
    in Her Place Yet

    It Surely Pleases
    me to Have Her
    Support Every Day
    And Night of the Year

    And What Do i Do Yes Provide
    Most of the Subsistence Support

    Of Course That Comes in Automatically
    For The Rest of ReTired Life So Easy Now

    And Yes So Very Traditional Indeed too Considering
    How Liberal i Am In Many Ways Annabel’s FRiEnD..:)

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    1. Wow… I had no idea that the issue was bigger than I thought it was, I mean being labeled a feminist.. Honestly, for me I thought I could just write about issues which disturbed me alot. But it seems I need to research more on the problems feminist face to be well versed with the concept.. Someone had already commented on the issue and said it felt like I was being defensive.. But if you felt offended I am truly sorry..

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      1. Oh no I wasn’t offended at all. No need to apologise🧡. I have just met people that say they believe in gender equality especially for women but then go to say they are not Feminist. So it confuses me, I’m just learning to accept that some people don’t like being labelled as a one.

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    2. And in all honesty, I might have been defensive.. Here, in Nigeria, my school particularly, I have had very bad encounters with people who say they’re feminists.. So I might have internally wanted to differentiate myself…

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      1. And I understand that. I know a couple of people that feel this same way about being labelled as feminist.

        I have also met people that do and say things as feminist and I’m like ‘Noo, that’s not feminism dear’. I am still learning as well ,there’s soo much more to it.

        Also, there are different types of feminism so maybe you are actually different. Researching will give you more clarity.

        Great Post, nonetheless 👏 🧡

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  5. I am working on a manuscript on women’s inequalty ttiled, *The Gender Gap* & your post herein is a literary godseed. You are extraordinary with your writing new ideas!

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  6. Woman is the Mother of Mankind
    Woman is the Moral Fiber of Civilization
    Woman is man’s First Teacher
    Woman is smarter than man
    if you encounter a Man smarter than a woman
    Woman you meet 1 man out of 100 with 99 hanging in the balance

    By: Van Prince

    I don’t mind living in a man’s world as long as I can
    be a woman in it.- Marilyn Monroe

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