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Self Worth

Be the kind of woman that when your feet hit the floor each morning the devil says, “Oh crap, she’s up!’ If you’ve been criticizing yourself for year’s and it hasn’t worked. Try improving yourself and see how that works. In everything you do, be a pineapple, stand tall, wear a crown and be sweet on the inside. If you care about what people always think, you will always be their prisoner. That’s why violence was initiated in the first place. Give a well deserved knock to everyone who intimidates you.

When you realize your self worth, you will stop giving people discount. And that’s why I have decided not to force anything anymore. If you find yourself constantly trying to prove your worth to someone, you have already lost your value. When you start seeing your self worth, you will find it harder to stay around people who don’t. People tend to take advantage of you whenever they realize you are comprising yourself or happiness for them. Stop that shit this year. Be with whoever wants you and not who needs you because you’re available.

If you don’t value yourself, then don’t expect anyone else to value you. And that’s the mistake some of us make. Our cloud heads lead us to certain people who manipulate us just to get what they want from us. Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth. It decreases when you try to impress the wrong people. The quickest way to acquire self confidence is to do exactly what you’ve been afraid to do. That’s why I would be making some decisions this month. Some of you would be glad, some of you would be shocked. In the worst way though.

I have a low self esteem problem, which is really ridiculous considering how amazing I am. When you find it hard to maintain relationships, friendships and even personal promises, you have a problem with low self esteem. You don’t push people away because you are better than they are. You do that because you’re scared to be judged or criticised. You’re always scared you may never be enough for some people and that’s why you push everyone else away and when you can’t push them away, you do everything to keep them in your life. Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to lose people. They are not worth your time. Don’t force it.

You are perfect, exactly as you are. With your flaws and problems, there’s no need to change anything. All you need to change is the thought that you have to change. Sometimes, walking away is the only option. Not because you want to make someone miss you or realize they took you for granted. But because you finally respect yourself enough to know you deserve better. Remember that the world sees what you put out there, so hold yourself to a high standard of elegance. And if you have fallen before from grace, pick up yourself and begin again with dignity.

I have an everyday religion, love myself first and everything else falls in line. And if something or someone is struggling to fall in line, help them by pushing them out. They are not meant for you. Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option. The worst pain is realizing that you’re an option to someone you made your priority. No relationship is ever worth sacrificing your dignity or self respect for. Don’t waste words on people who deserve your silence. Sometimes, the most powerful thing you can say is nothing at all.

I have this weird self esteem issue, where I hate myself but still think I am better than everyone else. And that’s why I can’t settle for less. Maturity is learning to walk away from people or situations that threaten your peace of mind, self respect, values, morals and self worth. Know Your worth, then add tax. You can’t be cheap because you’re worth more than that. Sometimes, I look myself in the mirror and be like “this find @ss queen is too great to settle for less. I have potentials and I need someone to build them and not dilute them with their foolishness.” Period.

When you try to make things better for someone or some people, you may end up making things worse for yourself. A little self sacrifice is noble but depriving yourself too much will onlmfy leave you depleted. By that time, they won’t realize that you actually need anything because you are the one who has always given. Take care of yourself, self preservation is not selfish. It’s essential to live a full and happy life. Don’t be with someone who exploits you because you care. Be with someone who respects you because you care. Always have your terms and conditions for everyone to abide with. And if they can’t, don’t feel bad to let them go. You don’t lose real people, we only lose idiots masquerading as friends. You don’t know what you have until you lose it is a quote for crazy people. I always know the value of what I have. So whatever or whoever I let go of or lose…

Doesn’t have any value!!

Inspired by

Born Again by Adekunle Gold

12 thoughts on “Self Worth

  1. Be a pineapple. That analogy is gonna stick with me for a while.
    Know your worth, when you do, other people will begin to value you as you value yourself. It’s not being rude or proud to decide firmly not to settle for less or let anyone treat you like less than.
    Amazing one, Anna!

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  2. “Love Is Mine To Give As Long As i Love No One Takes Love Away Now”
    SMiLes Dear Annabel This Is What Comes to Mind Sure Better Put

    SPiRiT
    HeART
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    Ego And What Actually to Do Next mY FRiEnD

    See that Word FRiEnD How FoRTuNATE i Am to
    Be Born With Fred iN FRiEnD It’s Almost Like The

    Whole UNiVeRSE Arranged For my Best FRiEnD

    to Flow Within True Some Folks Label This

    Inhaling Peace ExhalinG Love

    Force God Yet i All i

    Understand Really

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    Love Continues to Evolve
    As mY SoUL Continues to Gain
    Wings Of A UNiVeRSaL Bird SoaRinG
    HiGHeR Feeling Even Younger as 61 Turns
    into No Age at All Hehe Not Even Sweet 16 mY FRiEnD

    Yet Oh How long it Takes my Faith That Becomes All Love to
    Grow And Evolve ThiS Way as mY SoaRinG With These Wings Go

    Not Coming to Reborn Until Age 53 Yet’s It’s True Those Who LiVE iN
    The Country Within of Eternal LoVE Now Have All the LoVE That is God For

    Real to
    Give So

    Free Now So
    Do i Still Have an
    Ego That Rises Up
    And Down Depending
    On How Folks Treat me
    Like Human Gold Or Gum on
    Shoes As Daily i Often Get Both
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    Indifference And Silence Will Sting the
    Most For Human Ego too Yet my FRiEnD

    THeRE is Ground And Sky THere Are Stars And
    Moon THere is Sun That Lights The Day And Hangs
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    Paint the Colors
    of the NiGHT Marrying
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    Day Back to Merry Life LoVE LiGHT Once Again…

    Yet You ‘See’ in ‘my World’ Anything Goes in this
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    For This God SPRinGS From WiTHIN DarK Thru LiGHT For THeRE
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    This God of All

    This God of

    Night This God of Day WHoLE LoVE NoW
    And True i Will Not Lie Not Having to Deal
    With the Money God For the Last 14 Years
    Makes Life So Much More Possible ThiS Way

    For It’s True Money And Things Clothe Us Now
    Away From our Nature oF LoVE Free Inhaling
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    As Above As Trees
    Grow Taller Greener
    Souls Than Ever before

    From:

    NoW As Love’s Will CoMes
    to: BREaTHE NoW For Real…

    And Of Course When i Left the
    Money And Things God Behind
    i Swore off Carrying Money And
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    Just to ReMeMBeR i AM FRiEnD Naked, Enough, Whole, Complete…

    As It’s True Even in the Censored Version of “Jesus” in the Gospel of
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    Again

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    Naked,

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    Nigeria Has The Most Christians As A Nation
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    Company mY FRiEnD Only Problem is As JeSuS
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    And Tradition

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    It Seems to me THAT
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    THeRE IS A Lot of Wisdom
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    When God FouR LeTTeRS More
    Truly BeCoMES LoVE For All Now..:)

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  3. I was inspired by a local news story here in Scottsdale. An elderly disabled Black lady was in danger of being homeless because the landlord wanted the condo to take advantage of the rapidly rising rents. A stranger paid for three months at an Extended Stay hotel till an affordable residence could be located. She was about 92 and I love what she said, “I’m a part of God’s creation and I’m as valuable as anyone worth 2 million dollars (my paraphrase).” Now there is a woman who knows her worth.

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  4. “In everything you do, be a pineapple, stand tall, wear a crown, and be sweet on the inside.”
    I love this post, Anna!

    It’s been a while I read your posts. School’s been tiring.🥺
    Trust you are good?

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  5. Oh my gosh, this is lovely, timely post. I really felt uncertainly distant to people lately because I fee like I have been trying to please everyone. I feel like I wanna escape the reality to find what I can’t figure out myself. And I came to read this, such an inspiration.

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