The above excerpt comes from an essay titled “It is obscene,” which was published by Chimamanda Adichie.
Is chimamada right? Yes.
I admit that self expression can be hard and scary. Especially in a time like this that people can bully you into believing you’re wrong and worthless.
This modern era is tough and cruel. The society has created many stereotypes that basically make self expression a difficult task. These stereotypes affect the way many people feel about themselves. Alot of people judge themselves and lock up their minds because of the fear of rejection and mockery.
The fear of rejection has caused so many people to swallow their ideas, projects and inventions. What are people going to say? Whatever they say doesn’t matter especially if you’re expressing your emotions and doing what you love.
In fact, suppressing yourself can often lead to depression, loneliness, purposelessness and failure. Not only does self expression make you happy, it also heals your mind.
When you subject yourself to the criticism of others, you will abandon your true self. And there is nothing more horrible than living a life that isn’t yours.
Regardless of the consequences or criticism, always share what you have in your mind. There is knowledge all around us, waiting for us to learn and share with the world.
There is no way to avoid judgement. Hiding will not save you from criticism. No matter what you do, someone will always find a fault in your achievements and accomplishments. So, why not express yourself anyway?
You should speak boldly with intellect. Never hush your voice for someone’s comfort. Speak your mind, make people uncomfortable with the truth. Because the day your life begins to end is the day you become silent about the things that matter.
Young people in our generation are so scared of being wrong or different. We have learned to mask ourselves, to present a false life to the world to seek validation and public love.
I see thousands of people who have abandoned their true selves. There are empty, living everyday without learning or growing. There is only one thing that truly matters to them; the validation and approval from people on social media.
The bad thing about social media Is that it shows us a very unrealistic face of everything. It crushes our self esteem and confidence especially when your life is different. Social media is training us to compare our lives with others instead of appreciating who we are and striving to be unique.
Your worth is not measured in likes, comments or followers; but in your ability to love, create something that would make a difference and lead with integrity. If you’re struggling to be normal, then you will never truly know how amazing you are.
You should know that social media is not a safe space. Social media gives everyone a voice, regardless of what they have to say. Self expression has also been abused. Bullying, mockery, and abuse have all taken different forms as self expression.
Social media has become a place to share negative thoughts, condemn your friends and other people around you. It is obscene to know that thousands of people have built successful pages on social media by condemning people and creating chaos.
It is wrong to believe that self expression is saying or doing anything that you like. That is not self expression. If you know what to do to help the world, to make a difference in your life or others and you do it exactly. That is self expression. Acknowledge the difference between speaking up with intention and speaking for attention.
Don’t let social media define your worth. You will always see someone who you think has better than you and this will make you to think that you are not good enough or you don’t have enough. It takes discipline not to let social media wreck your mind.
Pay less attention to your fans, pay more attention to yourself. What is your purpose? What do you want to achieve in a year? Where do you see yourself in ten years? Because in reality, social media only forces unnecessary changes.
Always be yourself, love yourself, say what you think, share what you believe in. Do not go out and look for a successful or amazing personality and duplicate it. You can be yourself and be better.
I have learned to not keep my feelings sheltered. To express them and to never let anyone shut me up. And I have become stronger by doing that.
I have understood that expressing myself doesn’t make me weak, it makes me real. They are thousands of things I don’t believe in and I am not scared to expose them to the world.
I will continue to express myself, not to impress anyone but to heal my soul and improve the lives of people who are around me.
I do not want to die with a mind full of ideas, and empty pages full of excuses and lies. I was not born to please anyone, or to impress anyone. I do not have the desire to lose myself in search of other people’s acceptance or approval.
I am free like a bird soaring above the skies. I am roaming in my own personal space and sharing my experience with people who have similar goals with me.
My freedom and happiness comes from expressing myself with love and helping others learn to appreciate themselves.
If you find the truth in something, say it. If you fall in love with anything, do it passionately. Do not lock yourself up for people because at the end, what truly matters is you.
Life is all about sharing. I am good at sharing words that can inspire people so I will continue to do that.
Above all, I don’t express myself and share my thoughts so I can change the minds of people who think differently. They are entitled to their opinions. I share my thoughts so I can encourage people who think like me to continue.
Learn to live in the moment. Do not cage yourself or limit your potential. Express your love for yourself and things. Share your ideas, thoughts and enthusiasm.
SHARE YOUR KNOWLEDGE, IT IS A WAY TO ACHIEVE IMMORTALITY.